We've got to hold on to what we've got
Cause it doesn't make a difference
If we make it or not
We've got each other and that's a lot
For love - well give it a shot
Whooah, we're half way there
Livin on a prayer
Take my hand and we'll make it - I swear
Livin on a prayer
We've got to hold on ready or not
You live for the fight when it's all that you've got
Ok, it’s pretty close to half way, another few days. It seems like I have been here for three months, and it seems like I should be coming home soon.
I have planned my big trip. A little adventurous of course, but what do I ever do that is not?
Aodhan has been in a really good mood these past couple of days. We had a big disagreement the other day, because one of the straps was ripping off his backpack. I was really feeling stressed over taking a falling apart backpack on this long trip. He refused to have it repaired by me or by a professional backpack repair guy - (these are plentiful here). He also refused to get a new one. He did agree to fix it himself with some string, but I was sure this was not going to be a great solution. I never understand how to come to a compromise with someone who is not willing to shift a millimeter. He is worried because to him everything has life. His backpack has life, and he does not want to see it poked with a needle, or gotten rid of. I tried explaining to him that if a person was ripped open, we would have to poke them with a needle too, and stitch them back together. That did not go over well. It just made him begin to get very angry. I dropped the whole topic.
This morning, I asked him to have a shower. He, with a bit of argument, agreed to. While he showered, I borrowed sewing stuff from my landlord and quickly stitched his backpack. I preemptively stitched the other strap too! I hope it holds. He has not complained, and he has had the backpack all day. It is not the way I like to do things, behind someone’s back, but it is the only choice Aodhan gives me.
I also bought Aodhan shoes today. The ones he has are quite literally falling apart, and falling off his feet. They will not last through the trip. There are six inch rips on both sides of each shoe, and the heel is not attached to the base of the shoe. I have been trying since before I left Canada, to get him to pick out new shoes. He will not. He can choose any shoes in any store, but he only wants his old ones. Again, an unresolvable dilemma. Again, I must choose to go behind his back. The shoes I bought him are almost identical to the ones he has. Grey, converse style runners. I tossed the old ones in the bin after he went to bed tonight, and we will see what happens in the morning. In the morning, the easiest path will be to lie to him, and tell him his old shoes are at Yesenia’s for safekeeping. It’s not exactly a lie, his other old shoes are there. They too are full of holes and will be tossed before we return to Canada.
I never understand why Aodhan wants to live in a make believe world. I know there are things in this world that are hard to deal with, but we have to. I have always tried to help my children see everything in this world, the good, the bad and the ugly. Aodhan just does not want to deal with anything that causes him even slight discomfort. Any isight on any of this? Any ideas about dealing with this? Do I just go behind the curtain and rearrange the props so that his act runs smoothly? I let him know that I am doing it. He just refuses to admit he sees it, and that is the way he wants it. At least for this trip, I am not going to make him face facts.
So off we go tomorrow. It is hard to believe that this is the last night in our apartment. The jackhammers are silent right now, so I think it is a good time to go to bed. I won’t miss the mall construction when I leave:)
Well, morning came, and Aodhan complained a little about the change in footwear, but said “well, at least my other shoes are safe”. And sat down. He has not put the new shoes on, but I think the transition is done.
Misti from the golf course
Pichu Pichu from the golf course
The stuffed animal ride. Sorry the pic is so bad, I only had my i-phone and the ride was moving and it was dark. The seats for the kids are giant plush animals.
Aodhan walking down a road on the outskirts of Arequipa
Hey look, a photo of me!
A little restaurant on the outskirts of Arequipa. I really like that it's tin roof is held on with rocks.
Arequipa's dogs. Most people have one, or several! They are all extremely sociable, and friendly. However, cross their boundaries that they protect, and they will suddenly become ferocious guard dogs.
I thought this looked like the loneliest playground in the world.
Aodhan drawing (of course). I wish he was drawing pictures of his surroundings, but no, right now he draws pictures of car and truck steering systems. He wants to stop at every truck and look under it to see how it's steering system works. He also wants to climb in and see their sleeping compartments. Oh how to explain that you want to see a trucker's bed without giving him the wrong idea. Needless to say, Aodhan has not seen one yet. There is a big trucking show in Toronto in the spring, like the boat show, or car show, but for trucks. They will have many rigs there that Aodhan can climb through. I have promised to take him there.